Friday, July 28, 2017

Bears, Oh my!




When we first moved to New Jersey, I asked a friend for advice on where to go with kids. She suggested hikes and lakes and managed to get our tired crew excited about our new location. She ended the advice with a line about watching out for bears. All this was over email and I chalked it up as a joke. Well, no joke. There are bears here! I could not be more surprised. In all of green lush Germany, there were no bears. One poor bear wandered over the mountains from Czech and was tracked by various authorities until it wandered back across the border.
When we first moved in, our neighbors explained the trash thing. Not to take our garbage the night before pick-up as the bears would get into it. Sure enough we saw plenty of evidence of bears in the trash but we never saw the bear. Not once that whole first year. We picked up bear information from our local nature center, learning that the bears in New Jersey are black bears, but often have brown fur. The average male bear in NJ is 400 pounds and the average female is 175 pounds. The largest land mammals, these bears can stand 5-7 feet tall. We started to take all this bear talk more seriously.
Last year, I noticed New Jersey had a bear hunt season. Apparently, in the mid-1900s there were less than 100 individuals in the state. With legal protection in 1953, forest regeneration and increased food sources, both crops and garbage, the bears have bounced back and can now be found in each of New Jersey’s 21 counties. In the 2016 bear season, authorities re-introduced archery for the first time since 1970. 636 bears were killed in northwest New Jersey alone. Sadly, we heard about this as a well-known bear named Pedals, as he walked around neighborhoods on his back legs, was killed, garnering him an obit in the NYT.
The first bear I saw was on the trail behind our house, while I was walking the dog with a friend (new to New Jersey). We saw the bear about 25 meters ahead of us. Our dog, Sienna, off the leash, ran right up to the bear, who was huge, 100x bigger than our small dog. The bear ambled off into the woods with the dog barking and following. I had just enough time to think “how will I tell the kids that I did not rescue the dog from the bear” when Sienna can tearing out of the woods. We all quickly walked away and kept on neighborhood streets for the rest of the day.
Typically, the police get calls about bears and patrol the neighborhood. Now that I know that it makes more sense to the high police presence on our quiet little street (which backs into the woods). There is also a text message alert to bear sightings but I am not signed up for that. In June, we saw a bear walk through our yard and then got a number of calls from neighbors. Earlier this month, Phil and I saw a bear just after we finished a hike. Now that we all believe the bears are here and they are real, it all feels okay. Somehow it’s encouraging to think that bears thrive here, in such a population dense state.

Monday, July 10, 2017

Goodbye Middle School



Yes, the twins have graduated! We were a little confused as to what the event actually was. In years past, our middle school had a bigger event off site but has recently down scaled to a “celebration” at the school itself. We got there and it definitely looked like a graduation. Kids marched in, close to 400 of them, and sat and rose on cue. Adam and Royce marched in together so that was a nice moment, though we were too far away to take a good photo. The grade 8 students practiced all week and were good marchers. The twins got dressed up and went despite some nerves on both of their parts. All in all, a nice event and closure to the middle school experience.
Middle school ended with a flurry of activity. The kids went to Washington DC for a few days.  They visited a number of sites, stayed at a hotel and had their grade 8 dance at the hotel. Royce texted us throughout the trip, telling us historical facts and figures. Her favorite site to visit was Mount Vernon, where she bought us all postcards and jam. I asked Adam if he liked Mount Vernon. He said no. I asked him if he liked the Air and Space Museum. He said yes. When he got off the bus, he had no voice, totally hoarse. So we know he was talking non-stop there, just not to us about the learning experience. We also got lots of pictures of Royce and her friends before the dance. We have no pictures of Adam at the dance but Royce assures us he was there.
After the graduation, we invited neighbors back to our place for pink and blue cupcakes and Shirley Temples and Roy Rogers. All very nice and so kind of everyone on our street to celebrate the end of middle school at our house. We even had some friends from Hong Kong who now live in our town in attendance. It was nice to have someone there who remember the twins when they were starting Reception 2 at Hong Kong International School. Made the whole thing feel full circle. We reveled in the moment, then got everyone to bed. The kids graduated on a Thursday and had to go to the final day of school on Friday. Short and sweet, just like the whirl of years in elementary and middle schools!

Tuesday, June 27, 2017

Twin Teenagers




The saga continues. The twins turned 14 in May and I am struggling to complete this post about it by the end of June. That pretty much sums it up. Things are fast and furious over here now that all kids are teenagers. We anticipate the speed to pick up even more when the twins hit high school in September! But before all that, we had some birthday parties.
Adam, in a burst of independence, organized his own party. He sent out invites that he made himself. Set up the date, time and venue. (Bowling). I really was not sure what to expect but when Royce and I dropped him off there were kids there waiting. Everyone seemed happy, especially the newest 14 year old. After bowling, the group ended up back at our house for pizza and running around in the back yard. All in all, easy and just what Adam wanted.
Royce had a murder mystery party with her friends coming over and then following a script from a murder mystery party pack. The mystery was at points obscure but the girls went with it, hamming it up with accents and costumes. The overall theme was the 1950’s so we had lots of girls bursting into song from the movie Grease (which was oddly reminiscent of one of my own pre-teen birthday parties…)
Royce made a few appearances at Adam’s party and Adam did the same at Royce’s. But, unlike other places we have lived, they don’t really seem to be known as twins. Or perhaps their friend groups are sufficiently far apart. All party goers seemed genuinely surprised and pleased to see another 8th grader (said twin) pop up at the other’s party. The other notable absences; Tori and MaryKay. Tori was at Disneyworld on a high school band trip, but called and texted with more regularity because it was the twins and my birthdays. MaryKay, a many year twins’ party attendee and last minute cake helper, was away this year. She earned a break and we stumbled through without her.
The twins’ gift this year was a phone. While we are already regretting it, we caved to the inevitable. We now have multiple phones dinging at all times, fights for the charging station and low grade worry that someone has lost an expensive device. But we also have a family group chat (at one point titled “Sienna’s Fan Club”- Sienna is our dog). Somehow communicating with the group irons out individual fights. Our group chat messages look so nice and loving it gives us parents hope for tomorrow, for high school and even beyond.